Am I My Brother’s Keeper?
Deuteronomy 22 has a
couple of great laws in the midst of this first set of “various laws.” The first of which is the set of laws
concerning the property of another. The
thing that I love about this set of laws is that it is the direct rebuttal to
the claim of Cain in Genesis 4:9. There
Cain says to God, “Am I my brother’s keeper?”
Here in Deuteronomy, God definitively answers this question: Yes. Not that I am responsible for my
brother. But I am responsible for making
sure that my brother’s stuff doesn’t necessarily go away when he’s not there to
take care of it himself.
Who is My Brother?
Notice, however, that
God does not define “brother” along bloodlines.
I find it hard to believe that one might “not know” one’s blood brother
as is suggested in verse 2 of this chapter.
No, the thrust of this verse is that our brothers and sisters are those
within our community, those that live beside us, those that God has called us
to love. When Jesus Himself was
questioned about his brothers and sisters he says that those around him –
bloodline or not – are His brothers and sisters. (Matthew 12:46-50)
You see, this passage
is ultimately about community. We are to
look out for one another. We are to care
about our neighbors and our neighbor’s stuff.
We are to protect our community, even if it means taking something into
our possession and keeping it safe until the lost possession is sought out. In many respects, I think of Jesus’ parable
of the Good Samaritan as flowing right out of this law (Luke 10:25-37). The Samaritan comes upon a wounded person he
does not know. He loves the wounded
person, picks him up, cares for him, and does all of these things at his own
expense. The Good Samaritan is a great
example of the fulfillment of this law.
We should care for our communities and love people whether we know them
or not.
Miniscule Laws in the Middle
I’m going to skip
over the rest of the various laws. I
think they are fairly self-explanatory and it would take up too much space to
handle them all one-by-one. Instead,
let’s move forward and speak to the law of sexual purity.
Laws about Virginity
This passage about
“virginity” is confusing in many translations because the word virginity can be
translated a number of different ways – although all of them revolve around
sexuality and chastity. From what I can
tell, the best way to interpret the word “virginity” is “evidence of not being
pregnant” – in other words, menstruation.
If we take this word in this connotation, the passage becomes much
clearer and makes a whole lot more sense.
If a man takes a woman and she is pregnant, there will be no evidence of
menstruation and the elders could know for a fact that she was not a virgin
when married. However, if there is
evidence of menstruation then the elders could know that she was at least not pregnant
when she was married.
Of course, this still
does not prove her virginity but it does prove that any children coming from
her would belong to her husband and nobody else. Assuming that there hasn’t been any
infidelity after the marriage had been consummated. This interpretation focuses on establishing
the purity and the genuineness of the relationship and the offspring.
There is another possible interpretation of this passage which also makes
sense. Many believe that a married
couple would consummate the marriage behind a curtain with both sets of parents
outside the curtain as “witnesses.” The
bedclothes would then be collected by both sets of parents and brought forth as
evidence that the marriage was properly consummated. This interpretation focuses on the propriety
of the wedding and establishes that the marriage was consummated in case a
divorce would be desired later. In other
words, this is a legal interpretation.
While this
interpretation is certainly possible, I personally tend to fall in line with
the first interpretation I gave. That
one seems to be more in line with what God is concerned about – purity and
faithfulness – rather than legality and the hardness of human hearts.
Extra-marital Sex
The next law of
sexual conduct is pretty clear. If any
man has sex with a married woman, they both are to be stoned. It is adultery. There is no wiggle room, nor is there room
for “colorful interpretation.” If a
woman is married, the only one who is to have sex with her is her rightful
husband. End of story. Yet, we’ll see as we move through this post
how the laws actually develop to protect women.
Moving along, we
encounter two laws towards the end that draw a very interesting
distinction. One involves sex within a
town’s limits while the other involves sex out in the country. The important distinction is that of guilt.
It is assumed that if
a woman is taken unwillingly within a city that she could cry out and someone
would hear it. Someone would could come
to her rescue and witness to her desire to not be a part of such an event. Her cry would be evidence of her innocence – or
at least her unwilling participation of the act. Thus, if two people are caught having sex
within a city and there is no cry for help, it is considered consensual and
both are punished according to the overarching law of sexual infidelity.
However, notice that
if the woman is taken in the country – even if it was consensual – her
innocence is presumed because she could have cried out and nobody was likely
around to hear her. Here we see that the
Law is actually overcompensated in the direction of grace when it comes to
women. Here we see more evidence that
God is not truly a misogynist God but rather a God of grace and a respecter of
womenkind.
I find this law
incredibly grace filled – or at the very least in a status of erring on the
side of grace. In any case of
extra-marital sex, the man having sex with a married or betrothed woman is
stoned. Men having sex with married
women are killed. Period. There is no grace for them.
But the punishment of
the woman depends on both her actions and the location. She is guilty – and thus stoned – only if it
happened in a city and she did not cry out for help. To me, this is a law that gives a great
amount of evidence of grace towards women.
Unmarried Women and Sex
Now let’s tie up a
loose end. All the situations we’ve
talked about up until now involve a married or betrothed woman – and the
automatic stoning of the male participant.
What about when an unmarried woman is involved? Well, if an unmarried woman is caught having
sex with a man, the rule is simple. She
becomes his wife. They may never get
divorced. End of story.
In all of this, what
I think is important is the sanctity of the wedding relationship. This sanctity rests on so many levels. First, in many ways we who follow God are
thought of as God’s “spouse.” How many
times in the Old Testament are the people of Israel considered God’s
bride? How many times in the New
Testament is the church considered the “bride of Christ?” Our relationship with God is more often
compared to that of a marriage in the Bible than any other kind of relationship. So the way we treat marriage speaks very
closely to the way that we think about our relationship with God. If our heart is adulterous in a sexual
manner, then we are more than likely also adulterous in a spiritual
manner. If our heart is pure in a sexual
manner, then we are also much more likely to be pure in our relationship with
God.
But sex is important on a communal level as
well. Sex is an intimate act. It is the foundation of a bond between people
that is deep and fruitful. When that intimate
relationship is given away multiple times through sex with multiple partners,
that special bond and relationship is tarnished and it becomes cheapened. We take what God gave for our enjoyment and
fulfillment and trample on it until it becomes common. We take the fundamental building block of our
society and discard its importance.
Thus, sexuality is an important concept for us to consider and discuss. It has much to say about our spirituality as
well as our perspective on community.
And unfortunately, it is one of the things that our modern world
frequently gets wrong. I apologize for
the length of this blog, but I thought these were important concepts worth
spending a little extra time on today.
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