The Need For Grief
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Corinthians 7 is largely a turning point in Paul’s letter. He begins to talk about the value of comfort
and the need for grief. I’m going to
start with the need for grief.
I have to
admit that I know how Paul feels when he writes verses 8-9. It is difficult to give hard advice. It is difficult standing up for the ways of
the Lord. It is difficult taking someone
who is doing something wrong and patiently speaking to them words that get them
to question their actions. It is hard
speaking words that might end up in getting rejected – or worse, terminating
the relationship! All of those things
are difficult and scary. But often those
things are precisely what need to be done.
We all
know that humanity is sinful. We even
know and confess that we ourselves are sinful.
We know that we have all fallen short of the glory of God. But, there is a difference between knowing
that I am sinful in nature and someone coming and telling me about a particular
sin of mine. It is difficult to have
someone look at me and say, “I see sin there.”
Sometimes I reject those words of conviction out of personal
embarrassment because my sin was exposed.
Sometimes I reject the words out of stubbornness because I enjoy the sin
too much and am unwilling to think about letting it go. Either way, it is difficult to stand in the
path of conviction.
Now think
about the shoe being on the other foot.
It is equally as difficult to be the person who puts forth the
conviction. There is risk of losing
everything. There is the risk that
people will simply turn their backs and quit listening. It’s difficult for a completely separate
reason, but it is still difficult nonetheless.
But when
it leads to repentance and a restoration of relationships, it is worth it.
Grief that leads to another person becoming stronger in the Lord is very much
acceptable. The neat thing is that with
every small step of grief that leads to repentance it makes the next time of
grief easier to accept and bear. When we
have allowed God to use us to convict people around us and they respond, it
makes it easier in the future. It also
makes it easier to receive conviction from them as well. Relationships are built, and these
relationships are not the shallow please-one-another kind of
relationships. These relationships are
the genuine they-care-about-me type of relationships. These are the relationships that outlast time
and distance.
This
chapter is largely Paul’s attempt to explain this dynamic to the Corinthians.
Paul is saying that it is not good to want to grieve one another, but it is
even less good to let a Christian brother or sister dwell in their sin. We should want to deepen the relationship
through shared joy as well as shared times of conviction and repentance.
The Need for Comfort
This leads
us to the idea of comfort. There is
comfort in true spiritual relationships.
There is comfort when we know that someone is genuinely looking out for
us. There is comfort when we know that
we can speak words of truth and the other person will hear us. There is comfort in knowing we can trust one
another to listen to God and do His will.
There is comfort knowing that regardless of what happens, we are
spiritually connected to one another and loyal to one another.
Paul talks
about another kind of comfort. Paul
speaks about the revelation of God. This
is the greatest kind of comfort. When we
learn to trust Him and we see Him working through difficult times to bring
about repentance, we are comforted to know that God is genuinely in
control. We are comforted when we genuinely
allow ourselves to be revealed as being in the presence of God.
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